Our last few weeks in the US were so lovely, with even more time with friends and family; click here to read my Home for the Holidays post. We enjoyed our family Christmas Eve tradition of watching Polar Express and opening gifts with our daughter and son-in-law. They prepared an amazingly delicious meal of braised short ribs, Tartiflette, and a delicious salad. The ribs were so tender and delicious; they tempted even my vegetarian preferences.

The next morning we gathered again for a delicious and festive Christmas brunch.


Next came more time with Tim and Lisa, then back to Seattle with stops along the way to see even more family and friends. We went to Woodland Park Zoo to see the Wild Lanterns exhibit with dear friends Dave and Rosanne.






We got to see our young nephew score a goal for his soccer team, and enjoyed a very festive, neighborhood New Year’s Eve party with my sister, brother-in-law, niece, and nephew.


We ended our trip in style thanks to the Alaska Airlines Frequent Flyer Program, by flying to London in first class on British Airways. That was a treat and nice finish to our US adventure.








We thoroughly enjoyed our time in the US. Being with loved ones and familiarity, warmed our hearts. In the 31 days we spent in the US, we enjoyed time with 27 family members and 24 friends, all so welcoming and anxious to hear about our expat life in France. It was lovely but also conflicting to be there; I love being near family and friends, but I love France too.
I was texting with my sister as we were waiting to board our flight to London. She shared that she had driven her daughter to school that day along with some other kids. They were all sharing the highlights of their school break, and my niece said that the highlight for her was seeing her aunt and uncle. That brought me to tears.
As my dear friend Jack says; I’m processing. Another dear friend, Shirley, who has lived in many countries around the globe, completely gets my conflicting emotions. I texted her on our last night in Seattle and she shared this with me:
Dear Tricia – life is a process, and there are no rules about choosing to live in one place (France) where you can enjoy lots of experiences and see lots of wonderful things which is great. And then the processing continues as you make your way back to where people and not places are most important. Both are good and part of your journey. Happy processing dear friend, you’ll head in the direction both of your hearts tell you to go.
Such wise words; thank you Shirley.
As I’m writing this theTravelsketcher and I are on the Eurostar heading back to France, which at the moment is home for us. It seems odd to call France home; I have always considered myself a Pacific Northwesterner through and through. But at this point in our lives, France is where we hang our hats. We will return to the Pacific Northwest one day, perhaps as soon as next year, but for now, France is home.
There are things I like about both countries, and in actuality, I prefer France to the US; it’s safer, there’s no gun violence, everyone has health insurance, and the cost of living is much less than the US. Then there are the charming villages, and interesting history. And we can’t forget about the wine, cheese, delicious baguettes, and pastries. If I could move all my loved ones here, it would be perfectly idyllic.
The train just popped up out of the Chunnel into France and the sun has filled the train car rousing the travelers from their early morning drowsiness. The gentle slopping, verdant hills of Normandie lie in the distance; it looks like home.
In the words of Henri de Bornier – Tout homme a deux pays, le sien et puis la France, every man has two countries – his own and France.
All the best,
Tricia
So good, I could add nothing and agree with all you said. Your photos will keep the memories alive forever.
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Merci beaucoup!
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What a wonderfully-rich holiday meal, including the French favorite, la tartiflette! Lucky you got to fly first class back to Europe; it’s a dream of mine to fly first, even business class, some day! I agree with you about the sentiment of France being a second, adoptive country, or “pays du coeur.” Hope to read more adventures from you in France and beyond!
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Thanks Rebecca! Everything about our time in the US was just perfect, family, friends, food, everything was just wonderful. I hope you get to fly first or business class someday; it’s pretty great. We have more adventures coming up in just a few weeks!
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I am glad you had a wonderful Christmas with your family, not to mention flying to the UK in the first class – what a fantastic and memorable treat! I know what you mean about writing:” I love being near family and friends, but I love France too.” After 20 years of living in Ireland, I still miss my family back home but at the same time, I love our life on Emerald Isle.
But perhaps the hardest, and most time-consuming, aspect of expat life is the process of getting to know yourself. Being forced to understand and adapt to a different way of living around you throws the questions back onto your…
…who are you, what are your values and passions in life, and what do you need in order to live a life where you feel like you’re thriving and authentically you? Thanks for sharing, and have a wonderd=ful day 🙂 Aiva xx
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I didn’t realize that you’re also an expat; where’s home for you? Agreed; adapting to a different way of life, and different rhythms and customs is part of the process. You always have such thoughtful insights; thanks Aiva!
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Yes, I am and have been an expat for the past 22 years as I lived and worked in Ireland and Scotland. My home country is Latvia.
I often find that when I’m in Latvia I refer to Ireland as home, but nowadays when I’m back in Ireland I find myself referring to Latvia as home. It’s both a beautiful and difficult thing to have two homes, like having two best friends who can never connect, and whom you have met at different points in your life. Each one means something special to you, and you’ve had experiences with both that you couldn’t duplicate with the other. In an ideal world, you could combine the two, but in reality, you have to enjoy the best parts of both and accept any shortcomings.
At the end of the day though, I wouldn’t trade the experience I’ve had living abroad for anything. I consider myself very fortunate to have been able to make this choice and to be able to continue to choose this life.
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It sounds like they’re both lovely places to call home. That’s an excellent assessment, and helpful too; I hadn’t thought of it that way. Thanks again Aiva, for your thoughtful response.
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Looks like a fabulous time and yummy food! Oh My!
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It was so nice; thanks!
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What a wonderful time you had family, food, and fun. We just went to a similar lantern exhibit at the Atlanta Zoo. I love that these lanterns are getting to be so popular everywhere! And getting to fly first class- now that’s the life 🙂
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It was absolutely perfect. Thanks Meg!
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Sounds like a whirlwind trip, a lot of action in a month. I understand your conflicted feelings, but if France feels right, then that is what’s best for you at this point. 😊
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Good point Maggie. Thanks for stopping by!
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Travel through your lens made me hungry. That first class flight on BA actually looked like it was a wonderful culinary experience.
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We certainly had a lot of good food, and fun too. Thanks Dave!
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I understand about home and home. I lived the ex-pat life in Germany a few years ago and there was also a lot of travel involved. I have also now moved provinces (love where we live; miss the people of the old location). There are some great comments above about that interplay and I don’t think I can add anything of value.
Travelling by first class when you have to do a long overnight trip like that is fantastic.
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It’s always helpful to chat with other expats to get their thoughts about living abroad. Thanks Lynette, I appreciate your comments.
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Glad to hear you enjoyed the rest of the holidays. The Wild Lanterns exhibit at the zoo looks beautiful.
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It was quite impressive. We lucked out too since it wasn’t raining when we visited. Thanks for stopping by!
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Aw, this was a lovely post. I’m glad you had such a wonderful trip and I’m not surprised about the really strong mixed emotions. I like the idea of processing, I think they are wise words. All you can do is follow your heart and embrace the today 🙂
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Yes, good point to follow our hearts and live in the present. Thanks Hannah, I’m glad you enjoyed post.
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Your recent posting was a lovely review of a wonderful Christmas visit with friends and family. Your photos showed a good (and delicious) time. I was touched at your sharing your ‘processing’ with your followers. And I was amazed at the picture you painted with your words at the end: “The train just popped up out of the Chunnel into France and the sun has filled the train ….The gentle slopping verdant hills of Normandie lie in the distance; it looks like home.” Wow. Welcome home, Travelers!
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Thanks so much Shirley, I’m so fortunate to call you dear friend.
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Beautiful sentiments from you and your friends. And I love that last quote – that’s true for me, for sure. I was surprised to hear you say you could move back as soon as next year! If so, do all the traveling and take advantage of all those cheap flights while you can. You do realize I’m living vicariously through you, right? 😉
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We hear that a lot! Our family and friends are all supportive of us and our living abroad, but I do miss them. Time will tell. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
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All of that food looks so delicious! I love the lights Wild Lanterns exhibit too 🙂
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I’m glad you enjoyed the post. Thanks for your comment!
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France is where you hang your hats. I love that phrase, and, Shirley is one wise woman. First class, WOW! Thank you for sharing those photos — it looks amazing, and very, very well deserved for you two intrepid, and at-that-moment exhausted travelers. In need of a luxury seat on the plane where you could SLEEP, and a gourmet meal. We miss you already.
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Thanks Lisa; yes, first class was super. We miss you both as well!
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One eat so well when you are on holiday – your pictures of all the tasty dishes make my mouth water! Lovely photos of the Wild Lanterns exhibit – it’s so colourful. It must have been hard to leave all your family and friends behind again … but wow, the flight in First Class must have helped a little for the heartache! Shirley’s message is beautiful and I’m now going to send it to my brother in the UK as well. Enjoy France while you are there and when the time is right, you will know what to do!
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We do love good food! The first class flight was a perfect end to our month long stay in the PNW. It was hard to leave; particularly when my sister told me that my teenage niece said the highlight of her school break was seeing us; wow. But we’ll go back eventually. Is it hard for your brother to live so far from home? I hope he finds Shirley’s words helpful. Thanks Corna, for sharing your thoughts!
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I think after 16 years in the UK, this is definitely their new home. But that doesn’t mean they miss their family (and heaps of sunny weather). Their daughter was not yet a year old when they moved and their son was born in the UK. But after such a great time as the past month, it was hard for them (and for us) to say goodbye again.
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It’s always so difficult to say goodbye to loved ones. We’re kindred spirits with loved ones on different continents. All the best Corna.
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Great to read about the lovely time you spent in the US. The food once again looks great. As a longterm expat myself I appreciate your conflicting emotions. I hope the weather in France has been kind and that you are enjoying being at home.
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Thanks Leighton; I’m glad you enjoyed reading about our US trip. At the moment we’re feeling good about being back in France, even with the snow and freezing temperatures. We’ll return to the US eventually, but for now it’s home. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
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